Many years ago, when a
co-worker died in his 30's, I met his parents at the funeral.
Trying to help him with the loss of their only child, I told
them what a wonderful person their son had been. "Wonderful
person?" the father said in an agitated voice, "Certainly not! I
kicked him out when he was 16 and I haven't seen him since."
I was stunned by his
comment, left immediately and realized there was no point in
asking what had happened between them. But even today, I still
get chills when I think about the anger I heard in that father's
voice. What a difficult life it must have been for the son and
it amazed me what a nice, friendly and pleasant person he became
in spite of his difficult family problems.
For every minute you are angry
you lose sixty seconds of
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
But this article is not about getting angry, it's about fixing
it. Clearly the father lost his chance to ever reconcile with
his son and he will go to his grave with that hatred. But this
sad story could be a reminder for us to patch up while it is
Sometimes things go
wrong and we get angry that is the nature of the beast. But once
our anger subsides and it will eventually we have to focus on
fixing it. Saying "I am sorry" is the first step and showing
that we want to mend the broken communication is the key to
success. It's not always easy, but perseverance will help.
Are you angry about
something? Control the anger, before it controls you, and start
fixing the problem.
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