People Skills

 

Leadership

Humility

The Most Beautiful Word in the English Language

 

By: Bruna Martinuzzi

Excerpted from the article "The Most Beautiful Word in the English Language"

Bruna Martinuzzi is the Founder and  President of Clarion Enterprises Ltd.
Bruna is an expert on leadership, emotional intelligence, Myers-Briggs and presentation skills training. Based in British Columbia, she teaches, consults and coaches and she can be contacted at
bmartinuzzi@increaseyoureq.com

 

Something interesting happens when we approach situations from a perspective of humility: it opens us up to possibilities, as we choose open-mindedness and curiosity over protecting our point of view. We spend more time in that wonderful space of the beginner’s mind, willing to learn from what others have to offer. We move away from pushing into allowing, from insecure to secure, from seeking approval to seeking enlightenment. We forget about being perfect and we enjoy being in the moment.

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Here are a few suggestions on practicing humility:

 

  • There are times when swallowing one’s pride is particularly difficult and any intentions of humility fly out the window as we get engaged in a contest of perfection, each side seeking to look good. If you find yourself in such no-win situations, consider developing some strategies to ensure that the circumstances don’t lead you to lose your grace. Try this sometimes: just stop talking and allow the other person to be in the limelight. There is something very liberating in this strategy.

  • Here are three magical words that will produce more peace of mind than a week at an expensive retreat: “You are right.”

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  • Catch yourself if you benignly slip into over preaching or coaching without permission – is zeal to impose your point of view overtaking discretion? Is your correction of others reflective of your own needs?

  • Seek others’ input on how you are showing up in your leadership path. Ask: “how am I doing?” It takes humility to ask such a question. And even more humility to consider the answer.

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  • Encourage the practice of humility in your company through your own example: every time you share credit for successes with others, you reinforce the ethos for your constituents. Consider mentoring or coaching emerging leaders on this key attribute of leadership.

There are many benefits to practicing humility, to being in a state of non-pretence: it improves relationships across all levels, it reduces anxiety, it encourages more openness and paradoxically, it enhances one’s self-confidence. It opens a window to a higher self.

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